A huge part of who we are is how we deal with others. Our family, friends and all other relationships reflect us as individuals. Part is who we choose to be with, and also how we maintain those alliances. These interactions not only affect what we do, but how we feel.
Some guys always have a co-worker they can’t get along with, friends and family they fight with or don’t talk to, and bad or no female relationships at all. That isn’t coincidence, it is how they deal with others. Not everyone will be your friend or even like you, and that is ok. Some connections are better kept at a distance or non existent. But when it is of a personal or necessary matter, it is vital to be kept strong and happy. That is why people totally support a leader who is loved than a dictator that once loses power is assassinated.
The common factor in all these situations, whether successful or failure is you. Anyone can have a bad neighbor, workplace or friend, but when you have many of these occurrences you need to rethink the scenario. And most causes are stubbornness, inflexibility or combativeness. Sometimes just keeping quiet and holding your opinion or feelings to yourself is the hardest thing to do. But it will save you so much grief, especially in circumstances where you have no choice.
This becomes verbal judo. Where your choice of words, volume and tone control the interactions. Anyone who talks for living ; lawyer, salesman, bartender knows that your success is not what is said but how and where the conversation is going. If you choose to argue , be ready for a fight. If you choose to speak AND listen you will be in position to benefit. And in judo, positioning and balance are the keys to success.
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