When I decided to write, my goal was not to give instructions. I did not want a “How to ” book ( blog ), but instead I saw guidance as the best choice . Too many ” experts ” show you step by step how to succeed but you never really learn how to do anything on your own.
At the beginning, if you are totally lost, you might need exact instructions. But as you continue to learn , you gain the most with your own experience. And that is the key to any beneficial lesson. I can’t tell you what I do and expect the same result. And by the same token, when you explain what your going through I can’t live through your eyes. So what I do is tell you how to be better prepared but only you can climb in the ring ( everything is a fight ! ).
You cannot evolve if all you do is copy. If you go by a script, you will never be honest with yourself and that is the confidence you need to believe in. So you take what you need to go forward, and as you get comfortable, find little tweaks to make it your own. The easiest example is clothing. Fit is the most important quality of how you dress, but shades, layers and most importantly are accessories that will truly distinguish you. Those details are what will make you stand out and also create your own unique persona.
And that is how your confidence will grow as all else you tackle because you have that inner strength. Your small jabs, whether they land or not, set up the big punches. So when you get that great haircut, or those brogues you’ve been wanting, it all matters. Not the actual thing but how it makes you feel. All those positive things build the image you want and believe in. It doesn’t matter if people see just the shoes, or the watch or smell Sauvage ( my latest acquisition). More important is who you see in the mirror. The better version that you are becoming is what matters to you.
As you continue to progress it may seem that you have changed but in reality you have grown. You can wear a costume and play make believe but if you truly want to improve you must trust. The hardest but most important voice to listen to is your own. Honestly see where you are and imagine where you want to be. As you continue to step by step the path becomes clearer but not always easier. However the more you walk, the closer to your goals you get. And there will be stumbles and even roadblocks, but that is where you will define who you are. It’s not a race but a lifestyle.
Be The Man 