9/21/17

           Your mind is your strongest weapon.  And like any weapon, used improperly can do as much harm to you as to anyone else. Which is why we control not only what we think but how much or often we think. That doesn’t mean just act reckless, but overthinking  

          There is the dangerous point. Once you get an idea in your mind, you need to take action as soon as possible.  The time in between can ruin your chances of success.  Because in that period of time your mind can play out many different scenarios, which will include some form of failure. Even if you don’t see that, by creating results or consequences of your actions, if things don’t go as you envisioned, it could have a negative effect. 

            Every time we think about any situation,  and start imagining who things turn out, we are leaving an opening for failure.  Not in reality, but in our head.  So we either scare ourselves waiting for something bad to happen or even worse, decide not to take that step we had at one time envisioned. 

        And that in itself is the greatest loss. Because whatever the opportunity we thought about ( especially if it’s approaching a woman ) , it will never happen. And once that shot is lost you then stay thinking how stupid you were for letting it go.

       And just as bad is then deciding let me inch my way over there and see if they notice me. Instead of being invisible, you have now become the weak, scared non threatening  ( or interesting ) guy. What you just lost is the key element of interest, confidence. That strong posture, eye contact and smile that convey a strong personality are hidden during that all important first impression. 

              That’s why all those rehearsals in your head fail. They go beyond the moment, which is all you really have. In a fight ( my go to analogy), the cornerman just gives a few simple instructions. The rest just plays out. The more you complicate things, the greater the opportunity to fall. 

       So as long as you act , as you feel, believe in yourself, or at least give that impression, thing will flow naturally. There is no guarantee for success, but if you never try, then you are guaranteed to never achieve.