I have started and stopped this posting about six times. Which is usually the amount of time for 3 separate articles. There has been a lot going on ( mostly good ) but I have been very scatterbrained so my focus is not as sharp as I needed. However that is no excuse not to get back in the saddle and get back to business.
I usually do that because it is very easy to get in a funk and dwell on it. As we over think our faults , we lose our drive . Instead of looking where we are going, we only see where we stumbled. And the danger is that it is very easy to feel sorry for ourselves, and even doubt if it was the right choice. This makes it even harder to get motivated again since we have just added a stronger resistance, our own mind.
Another common response is anger. We blame either ourselves or someone else for our failure ( which could be correct actually ). Here the danger is that the anger distracts from our true goal and instead captures your attention totally. Now all you think about is how you messed up or someone did you wrong. How do I get him back, or you keep punishing yourself mentally. A lot of energy and time is lost there, when you should be using this as a lesson. I relate everything to fighting and in a championship fight there are 12 rounds ( 15 back when men were men !). If a fighter gets knocked down in a round, you don’t let him focus on that. You put that round behind you, learn what was the big mistake and get back on your plan. There are many rounds and you will lose a few. But it’s not the whole fight. If you stay in that round you have already lost. Pick your hands up, get back in the center of the ring, aware of what happened before, but back on the plan that got you there in the first place. The only way you will succeed is by continuing until you succeed.
Be The Man 