As much as I tell everyone, just go for it, start a change, the hardest advice to take is your own. As I write, post after post, how we must be willing and determined to progress and advance in our persona, when it came to myself, I panicked. I had been trying to grow my hair a little longer, so I was accepting somewhat, a little change.
I have had the same hairstyle for the past 15 years. I do little variations with it , but the same comb back. Tighten the sides for the summer, but keep it low, hiding tbe greys. That part actually doesn’t bother me as much because I am still mostly dark on top. Facial hair , however is another story. There it is mostly white with a dark hair occasionally, so that gets shaved quick. But when my hair goes white, I am ready to go with it. ( Actually have a strategy for that too, article soon ).
So as my hair is growing , it doesn’t exactly spread at an even pace. The sides seem to reach out, and the top is kind of round. But I don’t want to start messing with it yet, so I grin and bear it. I use gel, leave in conditioner ( another article ) but not much works. My patience is tested because I pretty much keep everything under control and this isn’t going as fast as i want. And suddenly I have a vacation coming up where I am meeting people for the first time and that drives me crazy.
So in a panic, I call the one guy I know who can relate. I explain again my turmoil to Kenia ( who gave me the answer that I already knew) and reached out to Mike . By the time I finished explaining, he was already smiling. 2 seconds later appointment made. He says, explain to Frank exactly what you told me and trust him.
Next day driving through Astoria, I spot Saloon Salon and let him do his magic. 20 minutes later, I walk out like Conor McGregor, even though it really wasn’t a major change. However, it was what I was looking for, even if it was a baby step.
And that is what change is all about. Every little deviation from your norm is a change for the better. I was too comfortable and that awkward state was messing with me. But once it was channeled, I am now ready to tread in unfamiliar waters. Once I lost that fear, uncertainty, I am ready to go, and that is when you truly grow and live up to be the Man.
BTW: Pic is my new favorite cologne, Invictus by Paco Rabanne. Try it.
Be The Man 