The biggest leap one must take in the transition to being a better man is mental. It’s easy to pick up a weight, and even easier to put on a shirt but all of that is meaningless if you don’t have a purpose. Once you understand the reason for these actions and more importantly the need to take action, you will truly progress. It will no longer be a struggle but now a challenge to your old self. You now have a firm grip on the hammer and chisel because you are commited to sculpt a new you, not accept what has happened in the past.
There are many guys who lift consistently and show no gains, in muscle and barely in strength. Part is genetics but a larger part is in the mind. They don’t challenge themselves in the gym , doing the same workouts with the same weight. They don’t stick to a diet that can benefit their goals. Sometimes a small tweak sparks a major change if you allow it. But you must be open to change .
And the only way you can honestly change is to admit the need. Not to totally change who you are but to face the fact that there is room for improvement in any part of your life. As we grow up ( or old in my case ) our position in life changes , for the better, and we must adapt to this. You were a teen, then either college student or right to work. A big step there. Later an employee, some became fathers , husbands which added responsibility in all situations . This progress as a man forces you to think and act differently in order to succeed in the role you have know chosen . And that is a major statement, to live the life you have CHOSEN . A grown man doesn’t blame anyone for the decisions he has made, good or bad. He charges forward because there is nothing that can change the past, but the present is here and now , which is in our hands.
As you decide the course your life will take, even if it is to continue what you are currently doing , it will now have a new outlook . You have decided what you do, how you do it and why. Sometimes it is out of necessity , but your decisions are for the greater picture of your life, not just for a paycheck on Friday. Anj job can do that, and if this job only provides that, then you either need a better paying job, or a job that provides future growth, or allows you to do what you really desire. I never had a career, only jobs. As a head of household , I was responsible for others, which was my main priority . But I had 2 great jobs which allowed me to pursue what I desired. And I never lost focus of why I stuck to those choices, as difficult as many days were. As long as I believed in me, my choices were now my conviction . I am not a victim of my circumstances but a creator, even with things out of my control . Because in order for things to happen , I have to put myself in position for that. Which are all choices I have made because I am strong enough to have learned from the past and now smart enough to see my future .
Be The Man 