The key to accomplishing any goal is the effort you put in. No matter how small or minor it is as far as the big picture, what you give is always related to what you get back. If you are not dedicated to your goal, it will be that much more difficult to reach. Now some people have a natural talent for things but for the most part we all have to work hard.
Now trying hard is important but more valuable is consistency. A one time shot is interesting but in order for to truly learn anything you must put time in. No matter how hard you work, one must follow through. I have seen many students at the dojo who train like maniacs , but they show up once every couple of weeks so there is no progress. They are always at the starting stage, never gaining any momentum or familiarity . And that goes beyond just the physical but the mental state also. The more you do anything , the better you will be. Even small, regular effort gives results.
So if you start dressing slightly better, every day, it becomes a more comfortable and familiar it will be. If you chose to be a little more social and break out of your shell with women, it needs to be done as much as possible. Eventually it loses the fear factor and becomes a regular part of your persona. It will no longer be something new you are trying but who you now are. Just as exercising becomes a new habit, so will upgrading your clothing style . And the key to all improvement is your mindset. As long as you are totally convinced and dedicated to the process , you will succeed. You must be willing to go every day towards your goal. But if you work consistently, and take advantage of every opportunity to improve , you will triumph.
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