One cannot rush the process. As you advance in your improvements, you have to take the time to allow the changes to become part of you. We have to stop looking for the finished product but absorb the steps taken to reach there. If you were to do all the steps needed it would not be an improvement in yourself. It becomes a costume that you put on for that moment. Since it is an actual change in you , you have to become the new version of you, not just look and act like that. There are 2 big problems with this action. One is that you will not  be comfortable in your own skin . You will not feel relaxed or confident because you are just wearing the look. That is the big difference between fashion and style. Fashion is what you buy, style is how you wear it. Just like karate, if I put a black belt around your waist, that does not make you a black belt. BTW, I would NEVER do that anyway ! The whole purpose of belt progression is a gauge of your ascent . As you advance in rank your technique improves so you become a good green belt, brown belt and so on. And in life, just like karate you will be tested . And the white belt with a black belt around his waist will be exposed brutally. In society you can only fake so much . Especially with women who are constantly analyzing and testing you. I call this the Patroclus syndrome. Patroclus was Achilles best friend and during the Trojan war, Achilles was angry with leadership so refused to fight. As the tide turned against them without him in the battlefield, Patroclus puts on Achilles armor and charges into battle. At first the Trojans ran in fear and he killed many but eventually as he engaged in more combat they saw he wasnt the same warrior and he died and the armor was stolen. And that false show will come crumbling down on you when you become exposed.

And that is the other problem. While there will be obstacles with in this growth , you have to find yourself in the course. Through trial and error, you find what works for you as an individual. We are all unique so maybe certain things may not fit you others may just need a little tweaking. But the only way you can find your niche is through experimentation. I can tell you how to fight but if you never climb in the ring It is just words. In order to develop, one must succeed and fail until you either find what works for you or find another angle to reach your goals. If you allow those losses to stop you progress it may be more harmful because you havent learned anything. Your vision has to be on finding what does give you the results you need , not focus on what has worked for others but somehow isn’t allowing you that level of success. The transition is necessary in order to develop that best version of yourself. Just let it happen, and you will become the man you know is within you. You are capable of being that man. All the time that you havent found him makes the path longer but not impossible. Let the true you awaken .